We (the boy and I) can’t quite seem to figure out our recent desire to have a living breathing amalgamation of our genes keeping us up at night. Neither of us would be considered “kiddy” people. Until a few months ago I was terrified to just hold a baby. In fact, I’m only comfortable holding my friends seven-month old if I’m sitting on the ground and there is, therefore, no chance of me dropping him. We wouldn’t know the first thing about looking after a child. Sure between us and a few good Introductions to Parenting 1.0 we could figure it out, make-sure the nappy is on the right way round and strap the baby seat into the car, but it wouldn’t be easy.
So why is it that the B word just keeps coming up, from both sides? Perhaps it is the animal instinct in us that is triggered when we realise we have found a life partner, or maybe its just that when you love someone so much it seems like the natural next step.
…..sometimes people think too much about why and when , should they , shouldn’t they…..but I think becoming a mother shouldn’t be viewed as some terribly hard and daunting task, it’s such a natural thing and somehow I feel sure you would be very good at it.xx
Oh, hello again.
No, it’s not easy and yes, it is terrifying, but that’s as it should be. If little hands are reaching out for both you, you should reach back.
I’d be wary of assuming ‘that when you love someone so much it seems like the natural next step’ though. Sometimes (regardless of social norms), it isn’t. Only you can know for sure.
Call it Drodbar.
I had held a baby only once (ONCE!) before I squeezed one into the world…but I did just fine.